#SinfullySassySunday: How to Boost Your Health with a Party for One #TheVixen #masturbation

How to Boost Your Health with 

a Party for One

Yes, you read that right. Today the Vixen is going to talk about the fine art of masturbation. Not only can self-love give you great pleasure, but it can actually boost your health. Having at least an orgasm a day has been shown to relieve stress, help you get a better night's sleep, and even relieve some of that dreaded PMS pain. Those are just the small benefits. Hang onto your knickers...the more orgasms you have, the longer your lifespan.

I kid you not. 

The hormone surges involved in the body during and after orgasms help to lower your risk of breast cancer, protect against heart attacks, and keeps the most potent sex organ you have...your brain...healthy.  Click HERE to read more about that.

Not only is it great for your mental and physical health and well-being, masturbation is the best way for you to discover your inner vixen. Who better to discover what shakes you to your very core than you? If you're comfortable exploring your own body, you will be even more comfortable sharing those experiences with a partner...or two later. Of course that could lead to finding even more hot spots on your body, but that's for another post! ;)

Don't go thinking that just a little bit of touchy feely will get you off in a flash. Masturbation is an ART. You have to set the scene, clear your mind and let the fantasies start flowing through instead. If you are a visual person, put in your favorite porn DVD, with sound if you are also an audio person...like me! ;)  

Dim the lights, surround yourself with candles, or set yourself up in a bubble bath with your brand new waterproof sex toy. Whatever it is, whatever the scene, set it up and start touching yourself. 

Still hung up on those Old Wives's Tales about going blind or body parts falling off?  Afraid the nuns are going to smack you with the ruler? Think you are going to become addicted to it once you start? Well, get over it!  Pleasuring yourself alone or in front of your partner can be the most sexually empowering act you can do. 

At the end of the post I've listed a few articles I found that can give you a bit more "research" and of course, make sure you check out your local or Internet adult toy stores for additions to your toy box for your solo fun. Before I go, I'd like to share with you one of my favorite songs and one I featured in a scene in my first book For the Love of Quinn. It's a fun song and sums up masturbation perfectly. 

Enjoy!

~The Vixen

The Best Masturbation Tips

Your Hands-On Guide to Solo Sex

The Art of Masturbation

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Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. 

Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels, Tawny Savage and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing and together they've created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out later this year.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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#SinfullySassySundays: #TheVixen Lives Her Erotic #RockNRoll Fantasy Through the Words of @kendallgrey1

Welcome to Sinfully Sassy Sundays here at our new home Kisses After Dark. I'm "The Vixen", your guide to all things sinful, sassy, naughty, down and dirty, and oh sooooo taboo. This week I wanted to share a series of books that grabbed me by the proverbial balls and never let go. Through the words of the author, I've been able to live everyone's fantasy...

The Hard Rock Harlots series by Kendall Grey is the raunchiest roller coaster ride I've ever been on. I didn't want to get off—well, the ride that is. ;) 

From the first page of Strings, through the belly of Beats, to the knock you on your ass raw Nocturnes, I was transported into the down and dirty life of rock stars and the people who love them.


I've loved all three books and posted a review for Strings (the others will follow shortly. I promise!), but by far I connected the most with Rax in Nocturnes. He's not only a bad boy, but a self proclaimed dick. He's not nice and he freely admits it, but inside he's yearning for the love he thinks he lost and the one he thinks got away. 

The descriptions of the characters bring to mind a few of my own fantasies portrayed on the big screen.  Rax is flat out molten lava in tight pants. The dude has a snake tattooed on his body—in all the right places. He's a Dom who isn't afraid to be someone's bitch when the mood strikes, sort of like another character.

Yeah, Rax reminds me a little of Tom's Stacee Jaxx but with more spunk, heat and vulnerability. 

Rock stars covered in tats and belting out tunes while half naked on stage gets my motor running and overheated in no time. Mr. Vixen loves to take me to concerts. The music and the lead singers get me so in the mood, I jump his bones the minute we get home. Hell, there have been times we haven't made it out of the driveway in front of our house! LOL!

These are the feelings that get conjured up when I read these books. The sex is dirty, raw, and in your face—and so are the characters. Behind the tough exteriors, we find broken hearts in need of mending and yearning for the one who completes them heart and soul...the one who "gets" them warts and all.

Rax is like my Julia Santos. On the surface readers shouldn't root for them. They're bad to the bone. They hurt the people who loved and trusted them—repeatedly. Both end up rock bottom before they find their way back to themselves and to the ones who love them. Both have to forgive themselves for their past mistakes before they can move on. 

Rax's heart belongs to the stripper Eve. She's just as damaged as he is but together the two of them make beautiful music in and out of the bedroom. Their story is one of triumph over the barriers we put up around our hearts to keep from getting hurt.

Here's the blurb and right off the bat you'll see why I LOVE THESE BOOKS!

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NOCTURNES contains 511 F-bombs, 81 well-endowed male chickens, 65 girl kitties, 58 Richard the Lessers, 10 C-U-Next-Tuesdays, and a plethora of other colorful words and phrases that would deafen your virginal mother's ears and make her bust out her "Shame on you!" finger. If you've been tuned in since the beginning of the Hard Rock Harlots series, you know the drill. The sex is extreme, the language is graphic, and the story is over the top. Prudes and under 18s need not apply.

WARNING: NOCTURNES addresses serious topics such as alcoholism, prostitution, and cheating. If you're looking for a barrel of laughs or sunshine and rainbows, this is NOT the book for you.

Rax Wrathbone is the dirty rock star you love to hate. The filthy fantasy slithering through your bed sheets. The serpent in your lady garden. The snake bite in your panties that keeps you sweating all night. He. Is. Sex.

And he's no good. For anyone.

After a nasty breakup with his best friend and their band's drummer, Rax is flying solo for the first time in years. Who needs the drama of commitment when the line for your humping booth spans three city blocks? No, groupies and liquor are far finer company than relationships, and they don't leave bruises after they've had their way with you. At least not lasting ones.

Rax's new adventures as an alcoholic, guitar-slashing one-man show are going along swimmingly until the only woman who's ever brought him to his knees shimmies down a pole back into his life. Eve doesn't abide excessive drinking, she has sex with strangers for a living, and she can't remember Rax's name to save her life.

She's perfect in every way.


Now, if he could just get sober long enough to forget his past and convince Eve he's worthy of her future...

If you'd like to live your own rock and roll fantasy, pick up all three of the Hard Rock Harlot's books from Amazon. I'm sure you'll be able to pick up a few ideas to spice up your sex life with your partner...plus one or two more! hehehe Can you think of any place you'd rather be than sandwiched between two heavily tattooed sex machines?

Until next time naughty ones!

~The Vixen

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#SinfullySassySundays: TheVixen Has Found Bizarre #SexToys for More #Fetish Fun

Welcome back to Sinfully Sassy Sunday here at Taboo II: Kisses After Dark.  I'm The Vixen and your guide to all things sassy, sinful and oh so taboo. If it's naughty with kink, I'm your gal!  My goal with these posts is to not only entertain you, but help you bring out your inner vixen every day of the week.  

One of my most popular posts on another blog had been one showcasing bizarre sex toys. I thought it would be fun to revisit that topic and scoured the Internet for more items to shock...err...surprise you. I've found some that were just plain WRONG on so many levels and those will not make an appearance here. 

The following will still serve my purpose so hold on to your nipple clamps and get ready for some more of the most bizarre sex toys on the market.


Clone A Willy

Got the urge to create your own vibrating dildo that's a perfect clone of your lover's Johnson? Well, this product is for you! It's got everything you need to help craft the perfect sex toy to use any time you wish. You can find it and a few other cloning kits from Lovehoney.



Pig Tail Butt Plug

 This one is self explanatory. For those of you interested in a little  tongue in "cheek" anal play, you'll want this one for your own collection. It's also a good addition to use in fetish play using a variety of dildos and anal plugs with an adornment such as this, horse hair or leather strips.


Hello Kitty Vibrators

Okay so I'm probably going to go to Hades for this one, but remember I'm not the one who came up with it! LOL This is the perfect gift for your sweetie with a Hello Kitty obsession. They come in a variety of colors so they'll match any decor.  Go ahead and get several to match both of your moods. They'll look cute next to the BDSM Hello Kitty plush toy! 



Foot Fetish Anyone?

This is one thing The Vixen isn't keen on, but there are many out there who are. Traveling and in need of a fix? These bad boys are just the trick. You can even find some that have openings in the heel to simulate a vagina. How that makes the fantasy work, I haven't figured out yet, but to each his/her own!



The Squee

Just the name alone got my attention   Then I saw the picture and wiggled in my seat. This one has to be in my toy box, and soon.  Oh Mr. Vixen!!!  hehehe  If you can't figure out what this bad boy can do for you then we really need to talk.  This toy gives life to the term "motor boating."  ;)






Now here's a couple life sized dolls for you. They're a bit pricey, but rumor has it, they're all the rage in Japan. Well what do you expect from the country and culture who gave us Anime porn? 

Japanese Silicone Dolls

These beauties are made of silicone and completely poseable. There are about a half dozen different faces you can choose from for your doll. These things are so lifelike, I had to check out a few different photos to be sure they weren't actually flesh and blood models pretending to be dolls.  

To go one step further, you can order another type of doll that has built in touch sensors. So...when you touch it in the right way she MOANS!!!  

My sassy ones, meet Honey Doll Moans...

The MP3 player inside the doll plays the prerecorded sounds or you can record your own. I'll stick with the real deal thank you very much!



Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot Seat

And yes this is another on my "Honey I want this" list. (Mr. Vixen is scribbling away at the moment. Not sure if he's making a list for me or for himself!)  This bouncy little number is inflatable, vibrates and is able to hold some of us BBW's with ease.  THAT's my kind of toy! It sports a stable, flat bottom so you can get your bucking bronco groove on without having to worry about falling off.

Going through all of these toys made me laugh and remember the first post I did on bizarre sex toys. There is one that I still have to get and the one I'll leave you with today. The video for it says it all!

Until next week, my lovelies
~The Vixen

Learn More About The Vixen

Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. 

Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels, Tawny Savage, and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing. Together they've created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out later this year.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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#SinfullySassySunday: #TheVixen Explores Sensual and Erotic Wax Play

Welcome to Sinfully Sassy Sundays at Taboo II: Kisses After Dark.  I'm "The Vixen" aka Tammy Dennings Maggy and your guide to all things sinfully sassy, wickedly wanton, freakishly forbidden and temptingly taboo. My goal as always is to help you discover your inner freaky vixen every single day of the week. Sometimes I'll have guests, and other times it will just be me and Luscious Lia chatting over our favorite spicy margaritas.

Speaking of Lia, what do you think of what she's done to the new place? The name change came about because of her friends The Candy Kisses Gang. Kisses After Dark is the name of their new adult themed restaurant and club. She's joined forces with them to create this joint venture on Temptation Island. More on that to come in future posts so keep checking back here and at House of Taboo for updates.

This week I'd like to talk a bit about a new interest for me. I've had a little fantasy I've been saving up for a rainy day so to speak. I've seen movies and videos that depict this fetish, but have been a little shy about trying it out myself. It's wax play.  

Now I'm not talking about the hot wax treatments used to remove "unwanted hair" from specific body parts. No way in hell do I want to end up like this... 

Yeah, no. I'll stick to the good old fashioned way to keep the beaver nice and smooth thank you very much!

I want to talk about using hot wax during sex play. Now there are a few things you should know before you get started with it. Those fancy schmancy colored and scented candles aren't what you'll want to be using here. NOOOOOO!    Those kind burn at a hotter temperature and the additives in them are more apt to cause irritation (besides burns).  

The best wax is the kind that melts at a lower temperature: paraffin or soy wax. The plain white cheap candles tend to be the best when you're first starting out. Sure you can work up to the higher heat candles if that's your thing, but for now let's stick to the newbie set up shall we? The ideal temperature of the wax shouldn't be over 125 degrees Fahrenheit. If you use a melting pot with a temperature gauge, you'll be able to keep the wax at the desired temperature. Soy and paraffin wax melt at around 133 degrees but beeswax melts near 150 degrees. Please keep that in mind when participating in this kind of play. Blisters and burns are no fun and can put a damper on play time for a while until they are healed.

As with all sex play you must consider SAFETY FIRST. Use an old sheet or drop cloth to cover your play area. Solidified wax isn't always easy to get out of carpeting or bedding so make sure you use something you won't mind gets a permanent coating of wax drips and droplets. 

Put your candles or melting pots on a secure, flat surface to avoid accidents and it's probably a good idea to have a small fire extinguisher at the ready.  Use towels, cold wash clothes and ice for the recipients of the wax. The ice in particular adds another dimension to the hot/cold experience. The same can be said for cold liquids...like champagne. ;) (The first part of this video is all you need to watch. The rest of it is a documentary that has nothing to do with our discussion today.)

Notice how Madonna held up the candle high above Willem Defoe's body? It's not just a way to raise his anticipation level. Pouring the melted wax from that height allows it to partially cool as it falls. It's still quite warm when it hits the skin, but not as hot as it was pooling in the top of the candle itself.

I mentioned earlier the use of melting pots for your wax. This is great for keeping the appropriate temperature of the wax and for using different instruments such as paint brushes, ladles, and your partners hands.  That's right. There's nothing more sensual for both of you then having your partner smear hot wax over your body with their own fingertips. The sensation is hard to describe. You'll have to experience it yourself to fully understand.  

Kinkopedia

With the paint brushes, some kinksters have actually used colored wax to write or create other cool designs over their partner's body. By melting crayons (nontoxic) in with the paraffin, they can create the colors desired. It's probably best to try out small areas with each color on the skin and wait 24 hours to see if there is any reaction. If not, then those colors are good to use in your next wax play session.


Now once you've experienced this kind of play, tested out what you do and don't enjoy about it, you can take it up a notch by bringing the candles closer to your body as you dribble the wax. This will raise the temperature of the liquid that touches your body. As you get used to that, and if you wish for more, you can try the beeswax type of candles.  There's no set rule that says you have to go to the hotter wax. 

YOU do what YOU enjoy. Plain and simple.  

For more information, here are a few articles for you to check out offering general information about wax play. 

Technique: Wax Play

Kink of the Week: Wax Play

The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play

Waxplay

Here's something to work up to if you desire...Enjoy!
~The Vixen

Learn More About The Vixen

Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. 

Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels, Tawny Savage and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing and together they've created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out later this year.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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#SinfullySasySundays: It Really Does Exist! #TheVixen Talks About the G-Spot

Welcome back to Sinfully Sassy Sundays here at Taboo II. Come on in and find yourself a seat. Lia and Tony will be around in a few moments with your margaritas. Today's special is the cucumber jalapeno version. It's cool and spicy all at the same time...just like me! 

For those of you who are visiting for the first time, I'm The Vixen. I'm your guide to all things sinful, sassy, wicked, wanton and oh so taboo. If it's naughty, you can be sure we'll talk about it here. 

Today is all about the mysterious part of the female body that many feel simply doesn't exist. Since they can't find it or replicate the sensations it can produce in every single woman on the planet, these people choose to believe the G spot is nothing but a myth.

Well, I call BULLSHIT!

That's right. In spite of what some so called researchers have concluded, the "elusive" G-spot really does exist. Apparently, a group of Israeli and American researchers reviewed over 96 published studies and they concluded that since science cannot pinpoint the EXACT location of said erogenous zone, it simply does not exist.

I wonder how many of those researchers were men? ;) 

It's funny how women all over the world have experienced the stimulation of this hot spot and can say without a doubt it really does exist...just like those come fuck me eyes you read about in Playboy! 

Take a look at this video put together by the Good Vibrations sex expert. Don't let her grandmotherly appearance fool you. This woman is a firecracker!

So if a group of scientists and researchers can't find the G-spot, how the hell are you and your partner going to be successful? First of all, RELAX. If you are so hell bent on finding this specific area, you are going to miss out on a lot of fun. Secondly, don't be frustrated if you haven't found it yet. Your specific zone may be bigger or smaller than someone else's. Get to know your body and all the little triggers that will get you off. 

For some women, the only way they can reach the spot themselves is to use toys. The curved ones work the best. They can be manipulated during solo play to get at the right angle to reach the G-spot with enough pressure and vibration. 

When with a partner, using fingers during oral sex is a MUST! I haven't found a toy out there (yet!) that can mimic that come hither or running man motion that can be done with fingers. Think of it as strumming a guitar. Sure you can get some "noise" just tapping the strings, but when you strum them at various speeds, you get beautiful music!

Are there any specific positions to be in in order to stimulate the "gush zone?" You better believe it honey! The best ones allow you to be able to control the depth, thrust style and position so you can find what works best for you. I found a blog article discussing three favorite positions. Ride 'em Cowboy, Doggy Style, and Your Highness are all explained HERE. Go ahead and take a look. We'll wait for you. ;)

There are other props that can help you get into the best positions to hit the G-spot during sex. You can use extra bed pillows to prop your pelvis into the right angle for deeper penetration. There are even wedges of various shapes and sizes that can be a fun addition to your toy chest. 

The most important lesson here is that you too can find your G-spot. It may not be in the exact spot that some claim it's in, but that doesn't matter. The fun is in the exploration to find it. The explosions that occur once you find it? Those are just frosting on the cake with a cherry on top! 

~The Vixen

 Note: All toys shown in this article can be found at the adult  toy store, Good Vibrations HERE.

Learn More About The Vixen

Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her best selling poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. 

Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing and together they've created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out early 2014.  Lia's first LGBT erotic paranormal short story is now available through Amazon, ARe, Smashwords, and most major ebook outlets.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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#SinfullySassySundays: @dochappycamper Revisits Icky Body Fluids and the F-Bomb in #Erotica and #EroticRomance

Welcome back to Taboo II. I'm Luscious Lia Michaels, author and owner of this naughty club. It's Sunday so you know what that means...

The Vixen is BAAAAACK!!!

The Vixen, our hubbies, and other Sassy Vixen Publishing authors just returned from RomCon 2014 in Denver, Colorado. We had an amazing time, met more readers and made new friends. Being involved in many author hosted events helped get our names out there and bring tons of people to our table for the book signing. ALL of our books went. Tawny's Bigfoot Chronicles literally flew off the table and rumor has it that people were trying to trade other books for them. Whoohoo!

You will be proud of us. We took every opportunity to discuss how there are some out there who try to hijack erotica and erotic romance so they can "clean it up" and make it more to their liking. You know how we feel about that! The last post we took back CUNT. This time, The Vixen wants to discuss body fluids and the use/abuse of FUCK. Yes, people can over use the word just like any other. 



Go on and grab your 'rita from Tony at the bar and take your seats. The Vixen is about to take the stage...





Welcome to Sinfully Sassy Sundays here at Taboo II. I'm The Vixen, you guide to all things sinful, sassy, naughty, and oh sooooo taboo. I had a hard time thinking about what to discuss this week because I've been dealing with a defending erotica and erotic romance yet again. It's beginning to become one of those never ending struggles for myself and other authors who write on the erotic side. 

Of course, I had less to defend at RomCon this year. More and more readers and authors are coming over to the dark side. LOL! Still, there were quite a few people turning white when I told them my favorite word was CUNT. hehehe. You know I had to do that. I love shocking the hell out of people, but at the same time I wanted them to know how I feel about the use of cunt and other "naughty" or taboo words in my writing. So, I thought it would be a good idea to revisit a post I did a year and a half ago on another blog. 

The spark for the following article was a Facebook fan page for another publisher. Someone affiliated with them decided to post a list of their "pet peeves" about some of the submissions she's had to read. Now, this is the fan page of a publisher that takes great pride in "bringing some of the  hottest stories out there to readers." That's actually part of their site's tagline, so you can understand why the following pet peeves got under my skin. I'm not one to hold back when it comes to my chosen genre. I'll defend it to the very end just as I'll defend the right of all authors to publish in the genres they love. The problem comes when people try to change the established genres to either clean them up or give them some heat. 


With that in mind...

Body Fluids Are NOT Icky!

This week has been one of many surprises. Not only did I have to continue to defend my choice to write erotica and erotic romance, I’ve had to explain what exactly should be in these stories to be labeled as such to EDITORS and AUTHORS who should flippin’ know better! Readers look to these labels for specific kinds of stories and characters. If we start changing up the definitions, we’re going to lose our fan base.

Come on! You work for a publisher that advertises that they put out the “hottest” romances around and yet you can’t stand the mention of body fluid and how much or how little is present? You want to vomit because an oral sex scene is too detailed describing wet chins, pussies and inner thighs?

But wait! There’s more.

You have never seen someone come so hard or so often that the sheets get soaked. So obviously it could NEVER happen in real life or the fantasy worlds we create. You’ve never witnessed more than a dribble or drop or two of precum on a the head of a cock so obviously any sort of spurting of the fluid is out of the question.

Well I’ve got news for you. All of it happens and I’ve witnessed it firsthand. It’s not some made up fantasy for me and many other people. Still not convinced these things can and do occur in sexual encounters? I feel sorry for you. I really do. My advice  to you is to get yourself laid by someone who can help you experience these things because you’ve truly missed out…on a lot!

Clits Don’t Throb!

Really?

Maybe yours doesn’t, honey but The Vixen’s does. Many other women experience these sensations even as far as to say their clits throb in beat with their heart when they are fully aroused. How can this be?

It’s remnant penile erectile tissue that ENGORGES with blood. Of course it can throb, pulse and ache. It can become so uber sensitive during arousal that just the act of blowing air over it can send me…er…many women into an orgasm. ;)

Women Don’t Squirt!

Okay, now you’re just ticking me off.  Oh and don’t you dare say she’s just urinating during sex!

Female ejaculation does occur and it’s biologically different than urine. It can literally gush forcefully out of a woman and soak bedding, clothing, and if she’s standing the fluids can run down her thighs. Just because you’ve never experienced that yourself nor have any of your “close” friends doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

What Are You Getting at Vixen?

If you’ve found today’s discussion “icky” and something that should be left out of the romance novels you like to read, write, edit or publish than you have NO business claiming the erotica or erotic romance genre as your own.

Those of us who write EXPLICIT, very detailed love scenes leaving NOTHING to the imagination will continue to carry on in this genre without you and we’ll stick with publishers who accept us and our books. We’ll leave the less explicit, less detailed,  left behind closed doors sexual encounters to you. There’s room for everyone and at all comfort levels. Stop trying to hijack MY genres because you think it’s cool or in to call yourself an erotic romance author or publisher.

You Never Go Ass to Mouth!

Instead of going into a huge discussion how this can and does happen, I’ll just share a clip of one of my favorite movies Clerks II. Here the characters are discussing this very topic.  Me doth think they protest too much! (wink wink!) If you don’t have a clue what I’m talking about here, you will after watching this scene!

Now For The Flipside

The same advice goes for those who use the F-bomb as a noun, adjective, adverb, verb, and explicative all in the same paragraph. Using that word over and over again doesn’t make your poorly written love scene any spicier or erotic. It makes it dull and boring. As the meme says, I do like the word and I do use it in my writing and sometimes in my real life. I can be a foul-mouthed broad, but there is a point where even I can't take any more of it.

The following is basically a parody of several scenes I found in one of the worst collections of so called erotica short stories. This particular one that so repulsed me was supposed to be an exhibitionist scene/orgy but it just made me want to vomit in my mouth reading it. LOL

He fucked into her pussy until he was buried to the hilt and then started fucking her silly. “Fuck! Your cunt’s so hot! I’m gonna fuck you until you fucking pass out.”

“Give it to me, baby. Fuck my twat, harder. Fuck yeah!”

“When I’m done fucking your pussy, I’m gonna ram my meat into your ass.”

She moaned and shook while her cream shot out of her, causing his dick to slip out. “Fuck! Bitch you’re just too wet. I’m gonna fuck your ass so hard you won’t be able to shit for a week.”

After he eased his thick rod into her puckered hole, he let her take over. She fucked her ass up and down his cock while her tits bounced wildly. The crowd of onlookers cheered them on.

“Look at those fucking tits fly!”

“Someone get your cock in her fucking mouth and keep her busy while Dave fucks her fat ass up!”

Having Your Cake and Eating it Too

There were very few if any descriptive terms in the above “excerpt.” At least two thirds of it all was left up to the reader’s imagination. I know I was so jarred by all the F-words in the scenes I read in order to write this parody; I couldn’t visualize any scene in my head. I was taken completely out of the story.  The above scene and those like it are what I call “icky.” They have nothing to do with erotica or erotic romance but have been marketed as such. When I read stuff like that, I picture the author as a dirty-minded teenaged boy describing what he THINKS is hot. It’s not even well written PORN by anyone’s standards.

So when people compare what I write and that of my fellow muses as “smut” or “porn,” can you see why we would take offence?  The dirty minded teenaged boy novel belongs in its own genre and not in mine just as much as what I write doesn’t belong in mainstream romance novels of the sweet and sensual variety.

How about all of us across the board stick to the descriptions detailed by the RWA for each of our respective categories and stop trying to hijack one we don’t fit into? My alter ego Lia Michaels did a post on these not too long ago. Here is the LINK.

If you want everyone to follow the specific rules of romance and yet won’t follow those definitions when it comes to genres and categories, get ready for some major debates and maybe even downright brawls. I for one will listen to what the readers want to find in erotica and erotic romances and not try to “convince” them that my work fits into those categories just because I say so.

Know your audience and write for them. Stop trying to clean up erotica and erotic romances. They don’t need it!

~The Vixen (card carrying member of The Vixens of Kink!)

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Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing and together they've created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out later this year.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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